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9-21 Update

I had published a post titled “Small Hands, Big Punches” in the past 24 hours. Due to the personal and sensitive nature of the article and some negative comments, I have removed the post at this time. I felt that the discussion could be harmful to certain persons, therefore, I made the editorial decision to make the post and the resulting comments private for now. I thank everyone for their support and understanding in this difficult situation. If you left a comment, I appreciate your readership and your addition to this blog and apologize for the unexpected removal of information.

God bless.

From the abyss

*waves from the depths*

Yes, I am here. I have felt your prayers and concerns for my continued absence. I admit, it has been hard to get back into the blogging habit. Unfortunately, life has been complicated lately, too!! I know, I know! Life is ALWAYS complicated. LOL But it does seem to have called for double exclamation points recently. So, we interrupt the regularly vacant appeal of this blog for a brief splash of life.

For those who have been wondering about my brilliant in-church retreat idea… it actually went well. In spite of me. LOL Those who participated enjoyed themselves immensely, were touched by the Spirit, and were overjoyed to be given a chance for real fellowship and discussion. I’m not sure I realized how important that truly was beforehand. Of course, beforehand was a chaotic blur of complete and total panic for me, but the result was well worth it. I’ll be ready to attempt it again in about 10 years…though voices were heard commenting that it should be an annual event. Very surprising, intriguing, and inspirational thoughts came out of the event, and I think God did something truly extraordinary here.

And then I dropped the ball. The idea was for the retreat to NOT be an event, but the beginning of a religious lifestyle change for our church. I never planned beyond the retreat. Which has me in another whirl of chaos as I try to organize thoughts, meetings, and activities before the effect of the retreat wears off the congregation. It would be very easy to have them slip back into the old way of thinking where they could look back on the weekend fondly and sigh about how much they enjoyed it. But the thinking, the devotion, the prayers that occurred at the retreat should become a way of life for a church, not another photo to put on a church history page. I’m not sure how to accomplish that right now, but I’m hoping God will spin me in the right direction and I’ll stick.

So many things have taken place over the past couple of weeks that I honestly feel overwhelmed. I will try to post on some of them over the next few days just so everyone can witness how flawed I truly am. I think that’s necessary now. I’ve been trying to keep it all together and not let everyone see that I’m a mess, and it has affected me greatly. I ask for your continued patience and prayers.

We return you now to your regularly scheduled blogosphere already in progress.

Where am I?

I know, I have faded into the woodworkings of my blog. I know there are some who come and check on me regularly to see if I’ve come out of my shell yet, so I felt the need to pop in and type “hi”.

Hi!

I will probably be an absentee blogger for a bit longer and I ask for your patience. You see when I feel like I’m don’t have enough on my plate, I like to turn the plate over and start filling up the backside. So, now I’m standing here ankle-deep in food and staring at the bottom of my plate. In other words…

I didn’t feel like I had enough to occupy my time, so I came up with the idea to host an in-church retreat for our congregation. A time to renew our connection to each other and to God and refocus on the vision He has for us as a church. It will require lots of writing, decorating, directing, and hair-pulling. The retreat is set for Sept. 8th so you probably will not see me much between now and then.

However, I must share my excitement, too. I have the wonderful opportunity to attend a contemporary Christian concert this Friday, Aug 31st and I am VERY excited. I’m going with a group from church and I’m looking forward to being renewed and blessed by what God displays to us. I will probably stop by and share any thoughts I have from the concerts with you next weekend.

Until then, may God bless you and keep you and make His face to shine upon you. Amen.

Bows of many colors

Today is my birthday and I’m thinking gifts - big ones! Some recent blog talk and personal studies have really pushed me to examine and think about spiritual gifts. What are spiritual gifts? I think the best explanations can be found in Romans 12 and I Corinthians 12, but simply put they are abilities, talents and traits God strengthens and utilizes in each of us to further His kingdom. They include, but are not limited to, leadership, knowledge, wisdom, service, teaching, generosity, and pastoring. I know, lots of people lead or teach or serve. That’s true, but the separating factor with spiritual gifts is that people lead or teach or serve in a way that glorifies God. It is a extraordinary ability gifted to us from God for the sole purpose of strengthening the community of God.

So, we all have a spiritual gift sitting in store, waiting to be tapped into. God gives us all different gifts. Let’s face facts, a world full of leaders with no one willing to serve or generously support the leaders would be a fiasco. We’re all given different gifts for a reason. It’s so the work of God can actually get done.

For example, three people went out together to witness. One had the gift of knowledge, the ability to study and examine scripture and faith to understand God’s will better, another the gift of teaching, the ability to communicate with and instruct others in their belief and God’s Word in a clear and concise way, and the last the gift of wisdom, the ability to examine scripture, opinions, and resources to reach a deeper sense of Truth. None of the three have a better gift than another and if they work together, they can help to strengthen each other’s faith and spiritual strength. But more than that, they have the ability to spread God’s Word in three distinct ways. So, they can reach the people who need to see the Word in print and understand it’s impact and Truth. They can reach the people who want to see and hear the Word, but need to have it clarified in less complicated terms and understand how it relates to their life. And they can reach the people who need to be reasoned with and convinced to give the Gospel a chance before they ever even agree to glimpse at the printed Word. Three different perspectives, one goal. Three different gifts, one God.

But how many times have we undervalued our God-given gifts? I have many times looked at someone who quotes scripture with authority or preaches the gospel in breath-taking language and felt lacking. These are spiritual gifts I should appreciate, but they are not the spiritual gifts with which God has granted me. My gift is not less than another, but different. Its application is different, but its purpose is the same - show others how great is our God.

But how many times have we undervalued the God-given gifts of others? I have many times clenched my teeth in frustration because someone did not have the same conviction I did in a situation; times when I was short-tempered because someone did not think, feel, or react as I would. Just as we must appreciate our spiritual gifts and how they work in accord with others, we must remember that others may not share our gifts either. I now realize that instead of getting irritated, I should assess how another person’s gift may apply to the situation to bring about God’s will. I should look at the differences as individual parts of the vehicle who work together get us down God’s road, not as a roadblock trying to hinder my walk.

This has been long and more instructional than insightful today. You’ll have to forgive. It is my birthday after all and I’m learning how to appreciate all the gifts. :)

5+5=10

And the continuation of the MASSive interviews! :) This time the questions come from my dear friend and sister in Christ, Hannah. The questions may be different but the rules are the same. So, if you want to join in the fun and be interviewed by me, just leave me a comment asking for it. I’ll send you 5 questions and the fun will continue! :)

So, the rules… again:

  1. Leave me a comment saying “Interview me.”
  2. I will respond by emailing you five questions. I get to pick the questions.
  3. You will update your blog with a post containing your answers to the questions.
  4. You will include this explanation and an offer to interview someone else in the same post.
  5. When others comment asking to be interviewed, you will ask them five questions.

And the questions:

(Note: Once again, the questions will be in blue to make the interview easier to follow)

1. I have been smitten by your poetic writing from the first time I stumbled
upon your blog! You obviously have a talent in literary arts. Do you write
poems? If so, would you be willing to share one with the rest of us?

You’re not gonna make this easy on me, are you? LOL First, I’m honored that you like my writing. I have a background in literary studies and I can ramble on about comedic theories for hours, but I truly lack any real literary talent. I think if you see something special in my writing, it must truly be God’s hand and not my own. :) As for poetry, I have over the years written a few really horrendous verses. If I don’t share one with you, however, you’ll just think I’m being modest…but I refuse to be held accountable for damages incurred. LOL This was originally written as a “gift sonnet” for a friend, but I don’t think they will mind if I share it - and I’m fairly certain they thought it was a very questionable gift to begin with. :) I apologize to you all beforehand. :)

Elusive
I have found that thing which is and yet cannot be.
Its elusive fragile wings have lit upon snow-withered leaves,
painting over browns and greys with vivid flights of beauty
as mind and fancy fight to one another cleave.
As ashes that have grown too cold for time much too long,
Dark night extinguishes day with its gentle breathy sighs
And the moon begins to hum evening’s quiet sleepy song.
But with morning’s stir, buried embers find the strength to rise.
In hours neither here nor there, in worlds that do not exist,
Destiny plays a magical tune snaring all within her alluring net.
Many dare to struggle free, too proud they fought to resist
As magical worlds are ours to own who never saw a threat.
In all our days, life’s sunlit beams shine through our many tears
breaking patterns into varied lights which color all our years.

2. How did you come up with the name Vixious? What does that name mean to
you?

Once upon a time, long, long ago,…uhmm, in a galaxy far, far away…I chose the name Vixious. It is exactly as you would think; a cross between vixen and vicious. It pretty much defined who and what I was at the time. I thought myself very clever for coming up with the name and it actually floats around the Internet quite frequently now. At that time, however, it was fairly original as far as names went and so it made me original. :) The name has now followed me around for longer that this explanation and I keep it for exactly three reasons -

  1. There are a lot of people who know me and have known me as Vixious and so I’d never probably really be rid of the name, plus it would cause confusion to keep switching.
  2. It is a reminder of a time when I had not yet accepted Christ into my life and my life revolved around me - my unhappiness, my foolish pride, my conceit. I really have been in the past a very unkind person whose ship was set on auto-pilot for destruction. It helps to remember that.
  3. And, it’s a reminder that I still am Vixious. I’m a Christian, but I’m still a fairly intelligent, vibrant, sexy woman. I’m still human. I don’t really want to forget that either. My name, my icon, my blog banner, they’re all about being very human, making choices, failing occasionally, and picking yourself back up and trying again.
3. In your response to Shalene’s question regarding a group you lead called
Christians in Action, you explained that this group’s ministry is expressed
in “creative movements and dance”. Are you by chance a professional dancer?
If yes, what is your area of expertise?

Nope, not a professional dancer. :) I define professional dancer as someone who can get paid to dance and no one is really throwing money at me. (*looks at what she said* you know what I mean LOL) I do have training in ballet and modern/jazz, but I’m in no way professional at it. I simply dance for God. That’s really why I do it and why I love it. It’s not so much the dancing as the interpretation of God’s love into movement. The main focus of our choreography is on interpretation and not on any steps - whatever gets His message across works. Actually, I originally fought desperately to keep the word “dance” out of the CIA description because it left such a bad taste in many religious mouths (dancing not CIA). I have since mellowed out quite a bit and let them call it whatever they like. I’ve got an audience of One, they cannot judge me. (I, also, have a lot of scriptural references to dance in my arsenal now - that helps LOL)

4. You mentioned ASL (American Sign Language) as a part of CIA’s expressive ministry. Are you fluent
in ASL?

This is a question I really didn’t want to answer mainly because I can’t answer in the affirmative. I wish I could tell you yes, Hannah. :) Unfortunately, no, and I’m not going to lead you on. I wish I was. I’ve picked up a good deal since we began, but I’m a long, long way from fluent. ASL is a smart thing to use in interpretive movement because half the vocabulary is already a visual representation of a thing or action. Also, there is a grace to it that people are captivated by. If there’s ever an ASL interpreter in the room, all eyes tend to be focused on the interpreter even if you can’t understand the language. However, I will never classify anything CIA does as sign interpretation - we use interpretive signing to convey a message. There are legitimate reasons for this. Most significantly, 95% of our audience is not hearing impaired and has no knowledge of ASL. I said half of ASL was a visual representation of something, the other half is a specific vocabulary that only carries a particular meaning if you’ve studied the language and its idiosyncrasies. So we blend ASL with interpretive movement so that it becomesĀ  a thing that I hope, in all honesty, anyone and everyone can and will understand. We do have an ASL speaker on our team and we have worked with hearing impaired groups within our community to interpret songs and scripture. So, I hate to disappoint you, MASS, but I am lacking in this area.

5. If you had a chance to meet and counsel with one of the biblical
characters: Sarah, Ruth or Esther, who would you meet with and why?

Okay, incredibly tough question. I want to take the cowards way out and say all, because it’s such a difficult choice to make. LOL However, I think if I were very, very honest, I would have to say Ruth. All these women are models for us and I would really love the counsel of any of them, but Ruth is, I believe, more relevant to me. She was a young woman who suddenly found herself without the protection of a man. Instead of doing the expected, she made the bold move to follow her mother-in-law into a foreign land and accept her faith and beliefs as her own. That would have taken great courage. But it is the hope there that draws me. She was not of the chosen people, but she became one of God’s people as she changed her ways and allowed God to claim her life. It wasn’t easy; she had to work for what she had, but she was blessed. She finds marriage again, has a child, has a family. I would want counsel from a woman with that kind of strength of character. A woman who could give up everything and move forward because her heart tells her to do so. A woman who rebuilds her life and family with grace and determination. Yes, I think I’d want to sit with her awhile. Maybe something would rub off on me. :)

I think I actually talked more this time and for that I apologize, and I’m sure I still didn’t do half of them justice, but I enjoyed the task. I think its not only a learning experience for you, but also for me. :)

Here’s the catch

I have never been angry at God, and I have never lied.

Ok, I think that wins me the dog. :) I believe sometimes that’s how people see me or how they think I see myself when they realize that I am very devoted to my faith. I immediately become less intelligent, less entertaining, less appealing - just less. They stop seeing me as who I am and start seeing me as who they think a Christian should be.

Here’s the catch - I am a Christian. Yes, that defines me. There’s really no other way to say that and I think that’s where people start to lose a sense of the individual. I cannot be a Christian and be the same person I was. Again, that’s just part of the definition. It would be like waking up tomorrow morning with the solution to world hunger in your head, then grabbing a pop-tart and thinking to yourself “I’ll get around to it eventually”. Being Christian is having a knowledge that you cannot ignore and that knowledge changes how you want to live your life.

I am a Christian and the fundamentals of my life may have changed, but I have basically the same personality I have always had. It just means that my Christian knowledge tempers the less positive aspects of my personality. I am a Christian with an incredibly sarcastic sense of humor; product of a less than perfect childhood. I am a Christian with trust issues; product of a few less than perfect relationships. I am a Christian who gets excited about things and frustrated when people don’t share that excitement; product of humanity, the joy of salvation, and way too many caffeinated beverages. I am a Christian who loves Shakespeare; product of a love of language, humor, and a couple of degrees that no one but me really cares about. I am a Christian who has been known to say “I hate people”; product of impatience, frustration, and usually a good bout of PMS. I am a Christian who is a woman; product of sin, grace, and genetics.

I am a Christian. That defines who I am and who I strive to be, but it doesn’t erase my personality. I am not a blank slate, I am as God made me. Though I try earnestly to die to His will daily, I know He made me as I am to be His tool.

I am a Christian - don’t be afraid to laugh with me and I won’t be afraid to love you for who you are.

One of the more positive aspects of blogging is the chance to build wonderful communities of friends where you can exchange thoughts, wisdom, experience, pieces of yourself. As I was perusing the MASS blogs today, I stumbled upon a chance to be interviewed by Shalene. The nice thing about this interview is that I get to volunteer for it (unlike the huge stream of memes out there that seem to attack when you’re least expecting it) and that the questions are personalized to you by the interviewer. I love this idea as it helps me to share things about myself that I probably wouldn’t have imagined anyone wanted to know and it gives me a break from trying to focus my thoughts today into an intelligent post. LOL

Enough talk, let’s get on with the interview. If anyone would like to join the fun and be interviewed by me, just read the rules below and let me know:

  1. Leave me a comment saying “Interview me.”
  2. I will respond by emailing you five questions. I get to pick the questions.
  3. You will update your blog with a post containing your answers to the questions.
  4. You will include this explanation and an offer to interview someone else in the same post.
  5. When others comment asking to be interviewed, you will ask them five questions.

Now, because I can’t stall any longer, the questions:

(Note: Shalene’s questions are in blue because I liked the way she did that on her blog and I really have no original ideas. :) )

1. I’ve read in your blog that you head up a group called CIA. Tell us what that stands for and what the group as a whole stands for. (I.e. it’s mission, it’s goal, etc.)
Good question and rather an easy one with which to start. I “lead” a performance ministry group titled Christians In Action, though we are more often introduced as “The CIA”. I love the looks that generally generates especially if we’re performing in a non-traditional venue. Our mission is to spread the Gospel of Jesus Christ in a new, creative, and expressive way that encourages people to be an active participant in worship and ministry to God. Our goal is to present the Word of God in a visual way; to inspire newly devoted worship from those who already have a relationship with Christ and a desire to develop a relationship in those who have not yet made that commitment. We do this through creative movement and dance using American Sign Language, interpretive movements, messianic dance movements, traditional dance steps, dowel rods, flags, streamers. We also to a lesser degree engage in skits, dramas, and puppetry. To CIA, worship is a full-heart, full-soul, full-body activity that demonstrates the Word of God in motion.
2. Recently, you wrote a blog post about a significant person in your life. Is this a romantic interest or your son?
Hmmm…I’m wondering how best to answer this one. Proof that people actually read my posts. LOL I write about people very often in abstract ways; however, I believe I know to which specific post you’re pointing (Or I hope I do or this could be embarrassing :) ). Yes, I had a specific gentleman in mind when I began that post. As I started writing, though, something emerged that clearly defines 90% of the dilemmas I face in most of my general relationships, too. So, it began about someone specific and blossomed into a self-awareness of myself. Many times we tend to point our fingers and say “you shouldn’t have acted like that” or “you should have done or said this”. As I started to point in that post, I realized that my accusations were aimed back at myself. Did I circle that tree and not get down to business or what? :) I will have mercy and say that the gentleman is a very, very dear part of my life and my heart and that we are not related by blood in any way. I don’t think he’ll mind if I admit that much. LOL *waves to “the unnamed person”*
3. I know you to be a single mother. What would you say to other Christian single mother’s out there, would be your single most valuable piece of wisdom, that they could use in their lives.
There are lots of pitfalls out there for single moms - lots of condemnation, derision, disrespect, dismissal. Many times we are our own worst enemies between being sucked into bad relationships or trying to prove that we are self-sufficient. So, my advice is be strong in yourself and strong in your faith. Confident enough in yourself and your God so that you don’t need anyone else to define who you are, yet strong enough to appreciate and embrace help, support, and love when it is offered in earnest.
(Note: if anyone has questions about the the first line in this answer, please feel free to ask. I’m not planning to delve into that in this post, but I would be willing to answer it in a separate post.)
4. How did you become a member of MASS and what is that again? :)
LOL Shameless MASS plug!! Warning!! Shameless MASS plug!! Gee, I’d be happy to share! You see as I began to seriously blog, I also started to explore the blog community. Through a blog directory the wonderful and extremely talented Shalene, the equally brilliant and soul-stunning Hannah, and I began to read and encourage each other in our blogging and in Christ. We are each others’ best supporters (outside of our families) and biggest fans. We formed the much-hugged Mutual Admiration Society Sisters, MASS for short. If anyone wants to join, just let us know and we will hug and encourage and pray for and send out MIA alerts if you go missing. :) (MASS is an equal opportunity spiritual support group, “Sisters” is non-gender specific)
5. What made you decide to start blogging, and how has it impacted your life negatively, and how has it impacted your life positively?
When I began blogging it was with a grand idea of global communication for performance ministry teams. I quickly lost the heart for that as my heart wasn’t really in it to begin with. A year later, I decided to write about failing, hoping that in doing so, I would begin to see myself and my walk with God a little more clearly and encourage others to understand that Christian doesn’t mean we’re perfect, just that we serve a perfect God. I’m not unapproachable. I’m not lofty. I’m not holier than thou. I’m a complete mess…and I know that God still loves me and calls me His own. This is why I write. The most positive thing is that I have learned a lot and I have made some wonderful friends who help me to see myself more clearly and help me understand more about the God I serve. Negatively, sometimes I get a little full of myself. I start to think I’m really insightful or I’ve discovered something great. I am, thankfully, usually humbled shortly after, but it’s definitely something I have to keep balance on. I don’t have the Truth, I don’t own the Truth, I just know the Truth.
Whew! I talk way too much! LOL Thank you, MASS, for the questions and the chance to explore and share myself a bit more.

Who am I today?

It’s a tough question to answer. I do know that I’m not the same person I was two weeks ago. I’m not sure exactly how that occurred. Yes, I was there. Yes, I experienced things. Yes, I know I’m different. No, I’m not 100% sure how or why. I just know who I am today is altered by who I was yesterday and by who I want to be tomorrow.

Perception. How do we perceive ourselves? others? our world? our values? How do we determine what is right and what is wrong? What is the measuring stick of our existence? I’ve recently come up fairly short on someone’s scale. Someone I called friend. I can understand disappointing someone and being held accountable, but I was weighed and measured without any input from my thoughts, words or deeds. Rather, something I did was not perceived in the same spirit that it was delivered. I could be angry (and I was for a bit), but now it has changed MY perception. How many times do we judge a person or situation that we truly have no real knowledge of simply because their actions are not the same as ours would be or are? The Bible tells us several times that it is what dwells in our hearts that is important; that determines and defines our character. If we’re not truly communicating with someone, then how could we ever understand what lies within them? If we don’t take the time to see to the very heart of the matter, then we’re not really looking, we’re just judging.

We have to examine ourselves, too. It’s very easy to get caught up in the rush, the hectic service, the expectation, the dedication and miss the fact that we’re suddenly only skimming the surface. It’s easy to forget or ignore the necessity of looking deeper within ourselves. There are, after all, so many other important details to be taken care of, problems to fix, solutions to uncover.

For quite awhile now, I have felt I was doing what God wanted me to do. I had been off-track for a bit, but I had stumbled my way back onto the path and I was content and filled with purpose. I have been running on that fuel for far too long. Fumes were starting to cloud things up a bit. I was fully aware of a sense of God in my life, but I had really stopped examining my life in God. I was believing, I was doing, I was speaking, but I really wasn’t putting too much of myself in my believing, my doing, and my speaking. Of course, there were exceptions when I couldn’t avoid deep speculation and self-examination, but, as a general rule-of-thumb, the lights were on, but no one was home. I became glib in my relationship with God. I wasn’t not walking the path, I just wasn’t appreciating the steps like I should.

I cannot say I have enjoyed the past two weeks. There have been high points (like the workshop), but there have been more low points (such as 8 emergency church meetings to discuss complaints and concerns). I am not, however, sorry they occurred. Judgement of my actions, caused me to examine them more closely, examine how they fit into God’s word, examine what I had done and what more I should have done. It made me step way beyond what I thought I was capable of, what I had limited myself to, and allow God to do more…much more.

I am not who I was two weeks ago. I am no longer on auto-pilot. I have left the cockpit in capable Hands. I have been burnt out and lit anew.

Who am I today? I am God’s, from the top of my head to the soles of my feet and everywhere in between. Can you see me now?

Sharing Praise

Things have been hectic and busy here. There’s just no other way to describe it. Meetings have been held to discuss church problems, worship services have been planned, events have been talked about. All that has happened has distracted me from my preparation and excited for one of my favorite weekends of the year.

For the past three years, I have been asked to teach at a workshop on creative ministries. While I love performing and glorifying God through my abilities, teaching others to do the same renews my spirit. It is the weekend when I can see a ministry that is near and dear to my heart taking form and reaching out. It’s a time when you can literally see God making disciples. It is an awesome thing to behold and much needed at this time in my heart.

So, I have a request of you, my friends, today. I would ask that you pray for this workshop. May it be successful in equipping others to share the Gospel of Jesus Christ. May it be filled with people full of the love of God and may He use us all in a mighty and powerful way. God bless.

Loving the wolves?

Can someone get the rabid dogs off my back?

That’s kind of the way I feel at this point. There was a meeting tonight and I sat through the whole process, however, I did leave the building in tears at the conclusion. My pastor followed advising me to not be discouraged and quoting Luke 21:12,

12 But before all this, they will lay hands on you and persecute you. They will deliver you to synagogues and prisons, and you will be brought before kings and governors, and all on account of my name.

I hear what he is saying. I hear all the advice and words of encouragement and love. Right now, though, I’m afraid I feel lost and confused and hurt. I need time for prayer and reflection. I need to figure out how to stand before these people on Sunday and act as if all is good. I need to understand how to plan and encourage when I feel as if I’m standing in need myself. I guess I can imagine an example and behavior that I can look to.

I think I need to get right with God and then I will worry about the rest. Actually, I think if I get right with God, the rest will fall into place.

Until then, God bless you and keep you and make His light to shine upon you.

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